Has AI gone too far with its use in dating?

[AllThingsTech]

Imagine being on a dating app, knowing your potential partner’s profile bios, images and messages are plausibly AI-generated! That should leave you concerned, to say the least!

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What’s more, the mistrust resulting from common AI use has led to false accusations made against users with legitimate photos of themselves, with suspicions arising from generative AI in images. A genuinely pretty person now apparently looks “too good to be true”.

Currently AI is commonly used to prioritise uploaded images in order of likelihood of matches, and to generate warning messages for messages calculated to have a high probability of being reported, based on patterns.

However, has AI gone too far?

 

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Research reveals that people are skeptical of dating apps due to AI usage, and chatbots the majority agree that dating apps are filled with too many machines posting as real people (AKA chatbots) to be trusted.

Plenty of skepticism of AI in dating apps, especially among women, survey says

More than twice as many people disagree with the idea that computer-powered artificial intelligence in dating apps will lead to…

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[Retro]

I saw a program on scams a while back which showed dating apps to be a cesspit of fraud, especially romance scams. Best not to go anywhere near them in my opinion and just meet people the old fashioned way, in person.

 

[AllThingsTech]

I saw a program on scams a while back which showed dating apps to be a cesspit of fraud, especially romance scams. Best not to go anywhere near them in my opinion and just meet people the old fashioned way, in person.

Well, you are @Retro after all, so I imagine you enjoy your @Retro ways

On a more serious note, here goes:

You never know what a person’s intentions are until they show their true colours though. Point being, imo this could happen when meeting ppl irl too!

What’s this documentary called? You watch so many, yet you never appear to remember their names You mention fraud, so are you more specifically referring to partners running off with your monies?

I used to watch Catfish, a documentary TV series on ppl turning out to be a completely different age group or gender and it’s bad to say the least, I tell you!

What’s your view on friendship apps out of curiosity?

 

[Hitcore]

Well that figures. Yet another reason why dating has gone to hell. I've never been a fan of online dating anyway. Especially apps like Tinder, it's a sausage fest, men outnumber women there almost 4 to 1. You'd have to be a 10/10 gigachad to stand out there. But if you are, then you wouldn't need a dating app like that in the first place.

Most of my 'successes' were IRL. I'm oldschool like that. My first girlfriend I've met in a record store while I was skipping class. That's a line that could have come straight out of an 80s high school movie. But things have changed. Societal things. I won't go too deep into it now, there are a lot of factors why things have changed so much (for the worse).

Let's just say that I have stopped dating. That's right, I will be single for the rest of my life, a firm decision. Call it an act of self preservation, as the world does not favor the kind of man I am any longer.



Then so be it.

 

[Retro]

AllThingsTech One can always be lied to and conned, but the apps allow this to be taken to a whole new level, so much so, that I wouldn't touch them with a bargepole.

What’s this documentary called? You watch so many, yet you never appear to remember their names You mention fraud, so are you more specifically referring to partners running off with your monies?

Dunno, it was well over a year ago. Likely Dispatches or something and unlikely to be available now anyway, you know how these TV companies love revoking programs after 5 minutes, so you couldn't watch it anyway.

Yes, fraud is all about running away with your money. Imagine falling madly in love with someone only to be scammed out of thousands? It's enough to make some people commit suicide. A truly awful crime. Thankfully, that's never happened to me and never will.

I saw a couple of episodes of Catfish, but they felt somewhat manufactured, like they were all actors. I looked up how they made it and apparently while the situations are real, there is some degree of staging there to make good TV. Can't be bothered with that.

What’s your view on friendship apps out of curiosity?

I have no interest in them and again, one can be scammed. The only social media that I'm interested in is with this forum.

 

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I have no interest in them and again, one can be scammed. The only social media that I'm interested in is with this forum.

I've made great friends on this friendship app Bumble BFF, I tell you ! I don't see such friendships apps or forums like NZ as social media, either .

I'm of the opinion that life comes with its risks, and we have to take precaution. There've been a number of no-shows, where a social is organised and ppl just don't show up! With that said, I've even had friends I've met at university that were unreliable, and that is the main thing, although I suppose there's no real incentive for random strangers you've just met online to be respectful, given that you may very well just never see them again!

 

[Retro]

If it worked for you, I'm happy for you. There's no right or wrong, here.

don't see such friendships apps or forums like NZ as social media, either .

I've noticed that people class the likes of Facebook, Intagram, Bumble etc as social media and forums like this one as something else, but that's actually incorrect. All the generic term "social media" means is a computer program that brings people together in a social context and traditional forums do that very well, hence they fit the same definition.

Social media isn't inherently a bad thing like either. It's just a tool that can be used and abused like any other, same as the TV, a car or a knife. All can do damage if used improperly.

 

[AllThingsTech]

If it worked for you, I'm happy for you. There's no right or wrong, here.


I've noticed that people class the likes of Facebook, Intagram, Bumble etc as social media and forums like this one as something else, but that's actually incorrect. All the generic term "social media" means is a computer program that brings people together in a social context and traditional forums do that very well, hence they fit the same definition.

Social media isn't inherently a bad thing like either. It's just a tool that can be used and abused like any other, same as the TV, a car or a knife. All can do damage if used improperly.

I don't class Bumble as social media

And yeah the Bumble BFF app really helped me with my mental health, to get out more
My parents were against it too being from the older generation, until they saw how it helped me!
They realised that the numerous scam and catfish stories don't reflect the majority of the population

I'm not trying to impose my views on you, either. Each to their own

 

[Retro]

Ok, glad those negative aspects of it aren't so bad.

Dating apps on the other hand, really are full of scams and general lying though, according to that documentary and articles I've read about them. Again, no first hand experience here, but it does make sense as there's no user vetting that goes on. It's just like Facebook Marketplace is also full of scammers. Wherever there's an opening, those bastards try it on.

 

[AllThingsTech]

Ok, glad those negative aspects of it aren't so bad.

Dating apps on the other hand, really are full of scams and general lying though, according to that documentary and articles I've read about them. Again, no first hand experience here, but it does make sense as there's no user vetting that goes on. It's just like Facebook Marketplace is also full of scammers. Wherever there's an opening, those bastards try it on.

You don't know ppl's intentions when you're dating either, so I'd say dating is much riskier than friendships. Dating requires commitment while friendship doesn't.
Ppl lie and play mind games about their motives - they claim to want a serious relationship to please the other person, when all they're really after is a one night stand. I know this from friends.
I also know some friends have been catfished multiple times on dating apps, but thankfully, it was just their first date.

Personally, I'd much rather be in a relationship with a guy I'm already friends with if we have that vibe, than to date, as I feel like dating is a forced interaction and it feels like an interview to make the best first impression and you aren't getting to know the real person; rather, you're just getting to know the front they're putting on for you!

On the plus side though, a real life friend met her now husband on Tinder and they are happily married!

On Bumble BFF, I've seen some ppl post up multiple photos, resembling different ppl, on their profile - they don't catfish very well, I tell you. I also ensure I video call before meeting in person, not only to weed out potential catfishes but also to feel the vibe first.

 

[Retro]

Oh yeah, all those Real Life situations you describe are real. I'm just saying that unfortunately those apps are enablers for scammers in a way that they can't do in Real Life, or not so easily. Think, using an app, they can scam 30 different people at once! Try that in RL. It's like anything that's computerised, it becomes much more efficient, often orders of magnitude more efficient. Dating and scamming are no different and that really ups the risk for a potential victim, to the point that it's just not worth it.

You don't know ppl's intentions when you're dating either, so I'd say dating is much riskier than friendships. Dating requires commitment while friendship doesn't.

Indeed, it's such a critical difference.

 

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Oh yeah, all those Real Life situations you describe are real. I'm just saying that unfortunately those apps are enablers for scammers in a way that they can't do in Real Life, or not so easily. Think, using an app, they can scam 30 different people at once! Try that in RL. It's like anything that's computerised, it becomes much more efficient, often orders of magnitude more efficient. Dating and scamming are no different and that really ups the risk for a potential victim, to the point that it's just not worth it.

What you don't wanna do is to book something with a person before you've met them a few times in a neutral zone where you can establish a level of trust prior to booking things together, because that is how you lose your monies!

I mean imagine one just creates a group for going to a musical today. If everyone pays for the organiser to book... and it turns out to be a scam, tough luck! Bottom line is to take friendships slow!